Metoo campaign-A blind need for Power, Control, Anger and Sex

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Why the Assaults? Why Sexual Abuse?

But first, who is the part of this campaign? Is the victim size big enough to influence change?

Yes, 93% of the women carry the scars of such violence carried out by men because of their lustful desires. Means say it or not, 93% of the women are a part of #metoo campaign. 

Am I a victim 

Or a survivor

Or a fighter

I don’t know at times

What labels will fit me? 

 

The metoo movement was started by a sexual harassment survivor in 2006. The hashtag got viral in 2017 when Harvey Weinstein had sexual abuse allegations against him. The movement ignited a fire in women where they changed their statuses to metoo to show that they have been a victim as well. 

There were celebrities from Hollywood, Bollywood and Lollywood who posted about their own experiences. As the fire started to spread among the masses, the incidents were shared by everyone from the globe. Men also joined the campaign and shared their own share of sexual assaults in their lives. 

There are many reasons for why people assault and abuse others, whether it is by men or women. 

Culture and related dilemmas

Firstly, older cultures encouraged and had instilled gender inequality. Men being the powerful and women being the inferior ones. Men having uncontrollable sexual desires and women having to indulge in such activities just to have a baby. There are men who misread signs or clues given by women in societal circumstances which lead to such situations as well. They are not very self-aware and thus only blame the women. Such remarks include that she was dressing inappropriately, she was out alone in the street, she was already with someone then why not me and so on. Remarks that can boil your blood. 

Control Freaks?

Secondly, it is to control the other person. Humans have a desire to control things, be organized even if we have to stay up all night, but making things all right. We try to foresee things and plan accordingly. So when people are not able to have any control over their lives, their relationships and they feel out of control, they take out their need to control on the weaker beings, be it a child or a woman. 

Please me, will you?

Thirdly, cultures such as specifically of south Asian believed that men are more important, and they pleased men on the basis of their anger tantrums. Men’s minds are chained in a way that they are allowed to be extra angry, they have the leverage to exercise their anger and control, even when it’s not right. The line between right and wrong has been diminished. 

Media and Objectification!

Last but certainly not least, our media plays a significant role in objectifying men and women. We may think that only women are the victim of objectification, but that’s not the truth. Men, who are objectified, treat other people as an object too. Additionally, they are seeing women and their body parts only as a thing to please men. So that’s what they do. 

cash me out, I am an object with no shade of life.

Did she want it? Let’s be clear on that

Let’s define sexual violence for clarity: Sexual violence is defined as any sexual act, attempt to obtain a sexual act, unwanted sexual comments or advances, or acts to traffic, or otherwise directed, against a person’s sexuality using coercion, by any person regardless of their relationship to the victim, in any setting, including but not limited to home and work.

Every once a week, the hashtag of metoo is trending. With someone new sharing his or her own story. How they were assaulted and sexually harassed. Whether it was a workplace or was it a public washroom, whether it was their own home or it was someone from their friend’s circle. 

Sexual harassment has become so common that 93% of the women in Pakistan have reported about such an incidence, once in their lives. 

#Metoo and the Outcomes

A #metoo campaign trends every other week on twitter and other social media platforms. But what are the outcomes? Is it the end of all the victim stories that they will be gone after a day? They will not be seen under the upcoming tweets? There are actions to be taken for such a condition of society. Cultures, traditions, concepts and other rituals have to change. There has to be resistance towards the objectification and the never-ending gender inequality. There should be programs in schools and colleges that can teach children what is right and wrong. What is consent and what is forced? They should be taught empathy and mutual respect above all. There has to be a massive change in parenting strategies and societal norms.

we need to treat humans like they souls
“Margaret Atwood, the Canadian novelist, once asked a group of women at a university why they felt threatened by men. The women said they were afraid of being beaten, raped, or killed by men. She then asked a group of men why they felt threatened by women. They said they were afraid women would laugh at them.”

Molly Ivins (Molly Ivins Can’t Say That, Can She?)

Am I a victim 

Or a survivor

Or a fighter

I don’t know at times

What labels will fit me? 

Was I harassed 

Due to a #metoo campaign 

Or as an entry criteria

For a gang group

Here I sit on the floor of my room

Feeling indifferent to the world 

Unable to comprehend 

How my own skin and body 

Was merely an object

To other humans

Were they even humans?

Who couldn’t hear my screams

Did they have a heart

Who couldn’t consider my pleads 

Did they have a mindful brain

Who couldn’t find my soul inside my body? 

I was not dead

I still am not. 

But I can never forget

How my flesh was scratched

Beaten and assaulted

As they used it as a playboard game

Moving and throwing dice

As they liked

Running half-naked through the streets

I realized

This is the world we live in 

And all I wanted 

Was to be closed in a prison 

Locked up

Safe from such creatures

Who are worse than animals. 

Even animals have a conscience 

But they didn’t. 

Now I am also a part of #metoo

As I lost a part of myself that night

– Maryam

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