The ‘Toxic Rishta Culture’ is destroying our society plus the self-esteem of many wonderful women who have outsmarted their ‘matches’ in many ways. Matchmaking has become more of a ‘Business Deal’ now and one with no morals.
A Twitterati that goes by the handle @OhMyMascara shared her Rishta experience which left many shocked. However, for others, it was something as normal as day-to-day things.
She tweeted about her not so wonderful experience and the girls all over the Social media started sharing their unexpected reasons for rejections.
Ladies, quote this with whatever physical appearance you were rejected for by rishta people. I was rejected yesterday for bad front teeth.
— vimtogirl (@OhMyMascara_) February 26, 2017
It is upsettingly common in our culture to reject girls on the basis of their looks, height, weight, eye-sight, education, profession, disabilities, personalities, hobbies, cast, financial status and many more.
Rejected Women and their Stories
When you are Akloti and Ladli but not marriage material.
In non physical things, too educated, working women, reads too much, is only daughter so must be really laadli, too introverted, etc, etc. https://t.co/VMxn6PcBa5
— Faiza Yousuf (@FaizaYousuf) February 26, 2017
“Yeh Bachi Hamain Samajh nahi i” Wait What?
Rejected for height, complexion and the typical excuse 'Bachi humey samaj ni ayi.' https://t.co/Lb0K3rV7c2
— ن (@Noordles_) March 1, 2017
If you can’t quit your job you are not perfect for our son
Btw 80% of rishta walas didn't even come over when they found out I was a working woman with no intentions of quitting. Yep https://t.co/0SH3MKpQxL
— Bissmah Mehmud (@bissmahmehmud) February 26, 2017
I never understand why people forced women to quit their jobs for marriage. If you want a non-working woman for your son then go for it but definitely making her quit her job is not logical.
Oh, we want a doctor Bahu
Larki engineer/Doctor nahen hai. What ? https://t.co/c0XraHYxak
— Asma Muther (@NotFromHospital) February 27, 2017
I was rejected because they were looking for a 'doctor bahu'. I hope they find a neurologist to fix their brains (if they have any) https://t.co/zIfm5Xozho
— Sadiah. (@Sadiah_Khan) February 28, 2017
That is to say, when they got a doctor larki, their demands begin to mount.
Medium height,Not goori chitti,Why interested in job/studying after marriage/Not a model like look.Also,Doctor banty banty age zada ho gae😎 https://t.co/v54Bp7ihec
— Rabia (@ad_ra_na) February 26, 2017
Also, why does everyone think that if a girl is an engineer, she cannot be a good wife?
My cousin was rejected engineering wasn't a girly thing to be studying and they'd much prefer someone with home economics. True story 😎 https://t.co/og3CGtc7nU
— 👻 (@SecularistPak) February 26, 2017
What if my son looks like a potato? He deserved a wife who looks like a Model from Lux Bridal Couture Week.
I was rejected for being too dark and being too big. I asked the mom rejecting me to bring her son first so I could 👀if he was worthy of me https://t.co/vtePrggiGI
— Alia Chughtai (@AliaChughtai) February 27, 2017
She is too Modern for us/she is too Islamic for us
Looks too modern lol https://t.co/MRUG1fMUlX
— #BLACKLIVESMATTER (@mintxchutney) February 27, 2017
For my Hijab. https://t.co/TbbjbW8XgL
— aaminah anam siddiqui 🇵🇰 (@amethystress) February 27, 2017
Whereas some are lurking for Parhi Likhi Bahu so she can work and help their son financially. On the contrary, many are afraid of the educated girls and reason is quite upsetting.
Not on physical appearance but on my qualification kay 'apki beti meray betay say ziada parhi hui hai yeh shadi kay baad dono larain gy' https://t.co/dgDhIhLkHj
— Weirdie 🇵🇰 (@chaiandfries) February 27, 2017
Ziada parhi likhi hai – don't know whether she was making me feel bad about it or insulting her son?
Hmmm I'll take the latter.. https://t.co/LxJpWMHQ9q
— MOUNTAIN GIRL – AMBYZEE (@Cheese_Pakora) February 27, 2017
Hence, some brave women with weird reasons
And I was told I am kinda healthy.
Sure I am, specially for the unhealthy minded people. https://t.co/iipVIXmI7c
— عائشہ فرشاد (@NotSoPsychic) February 27, 2017
No rishtas yet but I'll probably get rejected because main jahaiz mein ik paayi bhi nahe le ke jaoungi 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 https://t.co/mfAT8hFnV3
— کشف عاصم (@kashafasim) February 26, 2017
Another side of the coin
Likewise girls, boys also face such rejection and reasons are quite shocking as well. In the replies of these tweets from rejected women, many rejected men shared their rejection reasons as well.
Larka to Ganja hai+ Where is Financial stability?
@Oh_My_Mascara for their baldness, short height, not owning a house, profession, salary, bank balance not upto expectations etc
— Ahsan Tanoli (@AhsanTanoli) February 28, 2017
Its a business, not a marriage
@smnehad people want to have stable, educated, financial strong man for their girls. It's business nothing to do with Rishta
— Saim Rizvi (@saim_riz) February 28, 2017
Refused to leave his country
Not a lady but I got rejected because I refused to commit to living in USA after marriage. https://t.co/2qCnL5cplP
— Furqan Khatri (@iamreluctance) February 26, 2017
This goes both ways but it is obvious that the women’s face for rejection is heart-wrenching. It is my humble request to all women, don’t let such remarks fade your shine.
Your ideas are your partner and you are in charge of them – hire or fire them whenever you want.
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